A FOLLOW-UP TO THE LAST BLOG REGARDING ROMANCE begs the question, “Are love and infatuation the same thing?" Infatuation was something that Edison probably experienced in his initial encounter with Mina Miller. Apparently it blossomed into something far greater, but that is not always the case.

Some time ago, Ann Landers wrote a column addressing this matter. She pointed out that infatuation is instant desire; it is one set of glands calling to another. Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows---one day at a time.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.

Love is quiet understanding and the mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you—to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his/her presence, even when they are away. Miles separate you, but you can wait.

Infatuation says, “We must get married right away. I can’t risk losing you.” Love says, “Be patient. Don’t panic. Plan your future with confidence.”

Infatuation lacks confidence. When he/she is away, you wonder if cheating is going on. Sometime there is even the temptation to check up. Love means trust and that trust is felt and makes the other even more trustworthy.

Infatuation might lead you to do things you’ll regret later, but love never will. Love is an upper. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before.